What causes you to have those different experiences, does that mean you were wrong about the choice in the beginning? Is it good to have multiple experiences with different partners/dates or does society define this in a negative way? Who's the person judging you and why does their opinion matter to you?
There are so many different angles we could address and provide feedback on, but for starters let's focus on relationships and how it affects the dating cycle. There's an old quote that goes like this "Nothing Lasts Forever", unfortunately, most people prefer not to focus on this type of thinking because it can generate unhappiness or even worse, loneliness! Most of us would like to think that we have the perfect match, all of our friends compliment us when we're together, we share the same goals in life, and our families are great together. In hindsight, it's just the opposite: We're a good match, but we have our problems behind closed doors; although our friends compliment us, there are a few who wish they were in your shoes and plot their course respectively; over time, some of our goals change and we start leaning in a different direction; our families are happy as long as we are happy and can change on a moments notice!
Why do relationships dissolve and dreams get shattered? Sometimes, there's complacency with one another and someone stops doing the small things that made you attracted to them in the beginning. Maybe you stopped excersizing and started gaining weight, not too concerned because you have "your partner already"! Maybe you stopped working a certain job and started relying on your partner because they received a higher income! Maybe you stopped participating in certain physical encounters because you're too busy or you're tired of performing that part! Whatever the issue or reason was for the discontinuance of a certain participation, always remember that there's somebody waiting for an opportunity to take away what you have. Obviously, your lack of participation will make it easier for your partner to explore those avenues with someone who's willing to give them what you're not providing! A relationship is a job, once hired you can't just stop doing the job now that you're employed; you need to practice your skills, improve your skills, and show management that they've invested into the right person.
Once the relationship has ended, depending on the length, it's either back to the drawing board (the dating game) or an on-again off-again relationship cycle. As we enter the dating game, our first instinct is to protect our heart from being hurt again. This thought process of protecting oneself, is the beginning of the dating game: if you like someone, you don't tell them...if you get someone's number, you don't call right away (or else you'll seem desperate) or give them a wrong number (if you're not attracted to them)....eventually, the game will get old, you'll see the same people in different locations still approaching possible partners, as you either cling to the memories or search for your next partner... but deep inside, you're asking yourself "When will this game end"?. Most people will go to clubs with friends and may meet that attractive, physically compelling individual, who sweeps them off their feet and indulge in practices that temporarily take away the pain, only to realize this person has four or five other people who demand that same person's attention.
So the question is, how do you go about trying to find someone who's compatible to your interest? How to find your soulmate isn't an easy question to answer, because as we've found out earlier, people do play games. If you had access to a tool that could search unlimited boundaries for your possible matches, would you use it? What if the matched personalities also came with photos and a short bio of that person, would that excite you? What if the possible matches were people located in a city near you (or in your city), how would that make you feel? The questions just asked could be why more people today are leaning towards the Internet to find their soulmate.
One thing to be cautious about, is to not believe everything you read. Statistically speaking, most people who register with these Online Dating sites are not how they are perceived in person. The Internet allows one to express themselves without needing to be physically available; once you make an effort to meet, it's like starting all over again. The reason for this is that everyone has a different personality comfort level and some are more expressive than others. You may match up well with the individual according to their bio, but once you meet in person, you could be turned off by the lack of communication. To avoid this type of inconvenience, be sure to address questions about how the individual communicates when in person!
This article is written by Dwight Brisco, who's offered a number of counseling services in the field of relationships. This is one of many inspiring articles Dwight has agreed to write as the months progress. Dwight Brisco knows that there are a number of people out there who could use some alternative solutions in order to find their perfect soulmate and suggest you visit: www.match-doctor.info for additional options. The website is FREE to sign up and FREE to send/receive/reply to members emails. We suggest you be cautious about revealing all your information to strangers and be sure to inquire about areas you feel strongly about with any new prospects.
Why Nice Guys Finish Last In Dating
"Why nice guys finish last and how to avoid it!"
So why exactly do nice guys finish last all the time? Why does a jerk get any girl he wants, while the nice guy goes out of his way for the girl and gets played over and over again? For starters, it's all in how you make the woman feel about you and herself. Nice guys have a tendency to be extremely polite, friendly, shy, romantic etc.
Jerks are rude, inconsiderate, impolite and tougher then the rest of us, but do women actually like being treated like crap? This answer might shock you. Women don't actually like jerks over nice guys, it's just that jerks don't feel the need to hide their sexuality or sexual interest in the woman.
Nice guys usually feel ashamed, embarrassed, or afraid of rejection if they show any hint of sexual interest in a woman. Ok, women love sex probably more then we do, it's a fact. In order to have an easier time in seducing the girl of your dreams, keep your sexuality turned on 24/7 and never let up!
I don't mean be aggressive and force her to do anything, but making jokes, hints, and innuendo will let her know you are interested. If you act like a nice guy and don't show any of these feelings, the woman will just brush you off as if you're not interested in her at all.
So, start acting more sexual and flirty and don't stop unless she tells you too. You can be a nice guy and get laid, I take pride in being a nice guy, with tons of sex appeal full of great emotions I enjoy sharing with women, and this is the mentality you should be using for more effective seduction results on any woman you choose!
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The Pros and Cons of Internet Dating
The Pros and Cons of Internet Dating
Copyright by Kenny Anderson
http://www.tigertradellc.com
I asked my lovely wife recently what she thought about internet dating as an alternative to meeting someone at in the workplace, church or other more traditional settings. She only wrinkled the pretty forehead of hers as if I had said a bad word. Strangely, she asked me if I had ever considered it. I said I might if I was not ALREADY HAPPILY married. Am no dummy. I later found out that Internet Dating, in her opinion, is for those who are very desperate or very insecure. I don't necessarily agree.
I think its undeniable that Internet Dating nowadays has become more socially acceptable than it was just a few years ago. It has completely changed the dating world with which we baby boomers are more familiar. There is no question that it has absolutely revolutionized the dating scene all over the world. Serious adults who are genuinely interested in meeting people in order to pursue serious, healthy relationships and who are exhausted with traditional approaches find it a much, much better alternative.
But how did we meet the opposite sex before the internet became so powerful and popular? Well, the predecessor to internet dating was the posting of personal ads in your local newspaper. Not the papers that appeared so sleazy that you dare not get caught reading them publicly, but in the same newsprint you would utilize if you wanted to rent gardening equipment or find out where the nearest garage sale was being held. Even so, there was a huge stigma attached to the practice.
Let's face it, many people make false assumptions that anyone who utilizes the internet as a method of finding a lover are either one of the following:) too U-G-L-Y, b) too desperate, or c) too psycho, or d) an axe murderer.
The passage of time and advances in technology has produced thousands of online dating sites. Internet dating still wrinkles a few foreheads for us more traditional folks or those of us who found the love of our lives through more traditional means, but as my daughter would say, "don't hate, just celebrate those who are confident enough to try internet dating."
There are several obvious benefits to internet dating. Here are a few:
1) Safety – No one has to know who you are until you are ready for them to know. You are generally in complete control of the process.
2) Security – If you end up talking with someone online who you believe should be seeing a psychiatrist as opposed to a psychologist, so they can get drugs with their treatment, and then it is fairly easy to drop him or her. If they persist, it is easy enough to red flag them to the sites' webmaster, and they will be history! If you have been proceeding with caution, they will not be able to harass you further and you will be safe.
3) Here is one of the most important benefits, it's FREE! - Internet dating sites allow you to sign up and log on, generally without having to commit to a membership fee. You can have a conversation with someone without even having to buy him or her a cup of coffee or dinner. That's what I'm talking bout!
4) There is diversity. A wide range of choices. -There are more singles signed up and looking for love than rats on a sinking ship. Not a pretty picture but you get what I mean. There are tons selections and prospects…and they come in all shapes, sizes and colors!
5) It is truly cost effective. -With internet dating, you can practice the philosophy of "seek and find" fully. It enables you to get to know several prospects concurrently with less time, energy, money, and frustration. There is no question that this is more cost efficient than some more standard options. The chances of finding that "special someone", without having to file Chapter 7 as a result of the process, is higher when you use these cost efficient internet dating approaches.
6) Eliminates the Fear of Rejection – I had a friend who once came up to a girl and introduced himself to her. She promptly and coldly shut him down. Isn't that what we all fear the most: rejection? Who could blame her? She doesn't know my friend from Job. And to be honest with you, he doesn't have what I will call, "flow". Not real smooth. Internet Dating dissolves that fear. All we do is make contact via e-mail. If she or he rejects you, it will so much easy to handle and easier to quickly move on.
Okay, like most things today there is also a downside. Like the traditional methods of courtship, there are rules. Online dating is safe, inexpensive; over 99 percent of the
Online Dating sites in the world are very sincere about finding you the perfect partner. But there are still dangers to contend with.
There are many con men and women out there who use internet dating as a means to part unwitting victims of their wealth. You have to face the reality that there are some crazies out there who wish to inflict serious bodily harm, and others who use the internet for other forms of cyber-crimes. Unfortunately, due to the vastness of the World Wide Web, there still are not effective ways to police each and every e-mail or chat room without negatively impacting right to privacy issues. In the light of all this, here is some critically important safety tips you should absolutely adhered too:
1) Be Location Invisible – It is THE biggest rule in online dating. When meeting someone online for the first time, one should never give specific details about their location, be it the home address or other related information. The basic rule of thumb is to correspond with each other through e-mail or chat rooms around 6 or more times until you are confident that he or she can be trusted.
2) Avoid discussions about your financial information – Even after you feel like you can trust the person. Getting you to trust them is sometimes part of this scam. Ladies, don't allow smooth talking fellows to mesmerize you into submission. There are scammers out there on the World Wide Web whose sole purpose is to part you with your money and use online dating sites as a means to that end. If they ask more than 3 questions at a point in your communications that seems uncomfortable to you relating to finances, especially yours, consider that a red flag and move on with haste.
3) Listen carefully and verify – Here's your motto, "find them in a lie, immediately say goodbye." Period! I have known my wife for over 30 years and I still do not know everything about her. So, you clearly do not "know" who you're really talking to online, so be very careful. It may be difficult at first if you're new to using online dating sites but, given time, you'll be able to spot the difference between sincerity and plain old manipulation. Just listen to each and every word they say. The advantage of online dating is that one is given time to step back and meticulously process and digest the correspondent's story.
4) Tell a trusted friend what you are up to – When you get to that final stage in your internet courtship in which you arrange a face-to-face, always meet in a public place. Drive your own car. Tell someone where you are going, who you are meeting. Bring a retired Navy Seal with you for protection. I will even go with you for a small fee. Do you get my drift, do ya feel me?
There you have it. Clearly there are pros and cons to internet dating, but you are now armed with enough information to pursue this option to finding true love safely. Online dating sites can be lots of fun if you have the information and take the appropriate precautions. It sure as heck beats going out to bars and other similar venues. You might be looked on as being "different" for using online dating sites, but when you find the love of your life you will be the one to have the last laugh.
Warm regards,
Kenny Anderson
